If you’re caught up in a bad situation at work and have found yourself staying in a job that causes you emotional, physical, or mental harm, even when you know it’s not healthy for you? Know that you’re not alone. There are so many people struggle who struggle to break free.  While it can be a challenging and intimidating process, it is absolutely possible. In this post, I will explore what it means to be addicted to an abusive work environment, how to recognize the signs, and most importantly, how to break free from it.

What is a Toxic Work Environment?

A toxic work environment can take on many forms. It can include bullying, harassment, discrimination, and other forms of mistreatment from coworkers or managers. It can also include unrealistic expectations, overworking, and neglect of basic needs like breaks or proper rest. An abusive work environment can cause significant harm to an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, and can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and burnout.

How do I know about all of this? I know because it happened to me.  For the past year I have worked in an environment that prompted me to work 10 plus hours a day in an unforgiving environment with mean and toxic clients.  I was overworked and underpaid and I was extremely burnt out.  So, I removed myself from that situation and I am writing about it because if I can do it, so can you.

Recognizing the Signs of Addiction to Abusive Work Environments

I realized I was addicted to the abuse when I felt like I was trapped.  And it wasn’t because I didn’t think I was capable of finding another job.  I felt trapped because I had my eyes on a retirement prize called a PENSION.  It held me back and forced me not to move.  But when others are addicted to an abusive work environment, they may exhibit signs of fear, anxiety, or avoidance when faced with the prospect of leaving or standing up to their abusers. They may also experience a sense of shame or guilt, blaming themselves for the mistreatment they’ve endured. But it’s not you…it’s them.

How to Break Free from an Abusive Work Environment

Breaking free from an abusive work environment can be a daunting task, but it’s not impossible. Here are some steps you can take to begin the process:

  1. Recognize that you deserve better. No one deserves to be mistreated at work. You have the right to work in an environment that is safe, supportive, and healthy.
  2. Seek support. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what you’re going through. Consider seeking professional help from a therapist or coach who can help you work through your emotions and develop a plan of action.
  3. Document the abuse. Just in case you decide that you want to take legal action, make sure to document all instances of abuse and include details such as the dates, times and incident specifics.
  4. Consider reporting the abuse. If you feel safe and comfortable doing so, consider reporting the abuse to your supervisor, HR, or a higher authority. Be prepared for the possibility of retaliation, and know your rights.
  5. Begin job searching. Start looking for a new job that aligns with your values and interests. This can be a slow process, but it’s important to take the first step.
  6. Practice self-care. Make sure to take some time out for yourself. This could include going to a spa, taking hot baths and exercising.

Breaking free from an abusive work environment takes courage, but it’s worth it.  When I decided to leave, I set the date before I had another gig.  I wasn’t worried because I had a business waiting for me.  Not everyone is so lucky, but I am glad that I decided to take the leap and you would be too.  For now, begin your job search, start practicing self-care, and you can begin to break free from the toxic environment and start living a happier, healthier life.

But if you are feeling boxed in and you’re ready to get out of the box, then you might be ready for my new program.  The “Get Out of the Box” coaching program is designed to help you identify and overcome the obstacles that are holding you back from living the life you truly desire. Whether it’s a job that drains your energy, a relationship that no longer serves you, or beliefs that limit your potential, this program will provide you with the tools and support you need to make a change.

As your coach, I am committed to helping you achieve your goals and live a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. I will provide you with guidance, support, and accountability throughout the program, so you can stay focused and motivated as you make progress.

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Toni Coleman-Brown
Toni Coleman-Brown

Toni Coleman Brown is an author, coach, motivational speaker, social media strategist and professional networker. She is also the Founder of the popular, Network for Women in Business, which is an online community designed to train, connect and advance women in business.

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