If there is one thing that I have learned about this life it is that you absolutely cannot depend upon anyone to catch you when you fall. To me it doesn’t matter if you’re married or in a relationship it is not often in life that anyone will be there when you hit rock bottom.  Marriage is supposed to be for better or worse and for those who believe that they have found someone in their spouse who would be there to catch them if they fall then kudos to you. For me, I have learned that the only person who is really here for me is me and God.

Beyonce Says Sometimes You Need to be Your Own Best Friend

I don’t know about anyone else reading this blog post, but I have found this statement to be true. I have had to be my own best friend. I have had to dust myself off after every fall since July 2010 when my mom died.  And while most people fear being in this place, I must admit that I don’t have a problem with it at all.  I am comfortable with me and with being in my own skin.  I can sit and eat at restaurants by myself and go to movies by myself.  I can even travel by myself.  I am comfortable with me.

Are You Comfortable In Your Skin?

Being comfortable in your own skin is a great milestone to reach.  Not everybody gets there.  Sometimes you have to go inside in order to get out.  These past six to nine months I have been going inside of myself to really try to understand myself and my life.  And the assessment is interesting. All I am willing to say at this point is that change is in the air.  And that’s not a bad thing.  Sometimes change is good.  Today I am embracing it.

I embrace the art of loving myself

I embrace the reality of being responsible for myself

I embrace the act of being myself,  which I believe is pretty damn cool (ha-ha)

Honestly, there isn’t much that any of us can control, but the one thing that we can control is ourselves.  I understand that today if I fall I really don’t expect anyone human being to catch me, but I do expect the mighty spirit of God to reach out his hands. How about that?!!!


Toni Coleman-Brown
Toni Coleman-Brown

Toni Coleman Brown is an author, coach, motivational speaker, social media strategist and professional networker. She is also the Founder of the popular, Network for Women in Business, which is an online community designed to train, connect and advance women in business.

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